Spare Bedroom Ideas: Mixing Lilac and Grey in an Updated Bedroom
In this post: Are you looking for spare bedroom ideas? This grey bedroom features dark grey wall paint, white bedding and pretty pops of color.
I absolutely adore contrasting concepts when it comes to design.
Much like I love denim and diamonds or rustic with refined, the mix of masculine and feminine in a room is infinitely more interesting than one or the other. The opportunity to mix lace and tweeds, silk charmeuse with suede or florals with tartans is a pleasure to experiment with.
The curious blend of such opposites adds a note of sophistication and a good deal of individuality, and there’s no end to the possibilities when it comes to styling a room this way.
The Plan
This is exactly what I had in mind when it came to decorating one of our spare bedrooms, a lilac and grey bedroom that serves as my adult daughter’s room when she’s staying at the house.
I started with a mood board before I committed to anything permanent, so that I could be sure my daughter was happy with the design. I knew the mix of menswear patterns with feminine frills would be right up her alley, as she’s a creative girl with a flair for design.
She loved the direction and we proceeded with the room.
Grey Bedroom Ideas
The one thing we started with in this room, which is quite different than the rest of our house, is darker walls.
My daughter is in her 20’s and hence this room is decidedly younger than most of our home. She had just graduated college when we first moved into this home, and was living with us for a few months. I wanted her to feel comfortable in the space, so that once she moved out, she would continue to see this as her room when she came back to visit.
We experimented with several grey bedroom ideas and began with a palette of warm greys and beiges and chose lilac as the accent color.
We kept my daughter’s bed frame from the old house, but bought several new pieces to update her room.
This wonderful painted dresser was part of our original plan, and we were delighted with how it worked with the room once it was delivered.
Above the dresser is a fabulous art print which really embodies the look we were going for – both young and fresh, yet also soft and romantic.
Instead of my usual gilding we went with more silvery tones for the accessories.
The mirrored and glass boxes and the mercury glass vases add a pretty luster to the space, while the Ralph Lauren crystal boot is a particularly meaningful touch for my daughter (she’s worked for the company in various capacities, including design, for many years).
The bedding utilizes a mix of patterned pillows that embody the essence of what we were trying to achieve.
I love the way the mens-y pinstripe contrasts with the white embroidered pillow. (I alternate the lace one from the opening photo with the hotel stripe above.) The lilac silk pin-dot cushion punctuates the mix as a men’s tie would with a suit.
Lilac oxford sheets and pillowcases complement the pinstripe and pin dot pillows and together they exude a haberdashery look. A “hotel stripe” duvet cover and white pique shams round out the look.
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On the nightstand is a fun table lamp with a drum shade and crystal drops for a bit of glimmer.
This petite painted desk used to be my desk in my old office but it fit well here (and left me open to get this gorgeous French Desk for the study).
We added this fun grey storage ottoman with nailhead trim as a comfortable place to sit that would not block the view into the room.
The mirror will eventually be replaced with something a little more interesting.
My daughter is a bit of a tea fanatic, which works well with my teacup obsession.
And no room is complete without a few candles thrown in for good measure.
The dusty lilac drapes actually came with the house and the big double window lets a generous amount of light into the dark-walled space.
A mirrored lingerie chest is on the opposite wall from the bed, another new piece from our original mood board.
I selected a non traditional distressed wood frame for my daughter’s degree, which we proudly display in her room.
There’s still more to do in this room but it’s finally starting to feel more finished than not. You can see my daughter’s new room in her first apartment and note some similarities (particularly the use of lilac accent), despite it being a much lighter room which was necessary for a tiny dark apartment.
I’m delighted she has a place to call home when she comes to visit and we encourage her to stay as often as possible!
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You are so classy. I love this room- what a great mix of elements. I love those crushed velvet drapes and the mix of menswear fabric with the white embroidered pillow. I adore that painted dresser- it’s done so well and the pear print above.
Thank you so much, Liz!! Your comment made my day… 🙂 I was afraid the room didn’t photograph the way it looks in person and your words made me feel so much better about the post. We really lucked out with those drapes. The funny thing is, the room looked so different before, yet the drapes work perfectly! Thanks, as always, for visiting!!
A beautiful room! I love the color palette. I also love the mirrored lingerie chest, painted chest, and the canopy bed!! She should love this room as it is such a relaxing room to come home to!
Thank you, Angelina! I think she does feel pretty comfortable here and we worked together on this room. Her favorite color is a pale lilac and she enjoys neutrals, as well. The only thing she would have preferred changing is the canopy bed, but I wasn’t ready to get a new bed and I think it works great in the room… 😉
So pretty, Lori. Loving the mix of gray and lilac and then feminine and masculine.
Thanks, Kim! I enjoy using contrasts, so I’m glad others appreciate that as well… 🙂
Lovely Lovely room Lory, I am sure your daughter must be thrilled with it.
So nice that the draperies went so well with it too……
It is a very warm and inviting room.
Blessings, Nellie
Thanks so much, Nellie!! I’m glad it reads as warm and inviting because I was very nervous about the dark grey. It’s the only room in the house with dark walls and the way it’s situated, half the room is very light and the other half quite dark. But we tried to use lots of elements that would make it feel comfortable… 🙂
Oh, I’m lovin’ this room! The colors are feminine as well as grownup. I love lilac but it can be too girly or too matronly. You hit just the right color combo for a very welcoming room. I spotted her IU diploma…that’s a beautiful campus.
Thanks so much, Donna! Yes, IU is magnificent actually. I always think of the fun time she had there so I sometimes forget how struck we were with the beauty of the campus the first time we went there. Would love to go back with my new camera one of these days… 🙂
As always you have put together such a beautiful room. I love all the details, the pretty candles even the texture of the pear pictures frame..Perfect! The wall color is so soothing. Another winner!
Thanks you, Elizabeth! This one was fun to do because it was a little different than my typical style, yet I think it still works with the rest of the house. So glad you appreciate all the details… 🙂 Thanks for stopping by!!
A very beautiful and feminine room for your daughter – I’ve just re-decorated our Guest Room and chose Lilac/purple and grey with small touches of yellow, which looks really nice. I bet your daughter is one happy young lady who loves to come home and spend time in her room 🙂
Thanks, Denise! The room is actually a perfect representation of who my daughter is with the mix of menswear and frills. She’s both strong willed and driven, yet soft and feminine… 🙂 I think she does enjoy coming home from time to time. Your room sounds lovely with the touches of yellow included.
Hi again Lori – just wanted to say that I have noticed you have changed the ‘header’ of your website – that also looks very nice, but …. I do miss your beautiful photos on your ‘header’ that you had before – you take such beautiful photos and you should be very proud 🙂 I wish I had a camera like the one you must have and the abililty to take such beautiful photos 🙂
Thank you, Denise! Actually, the photos are still there right under the header. I’ve updated a few of them and the category names are on top, but the design is still a work in progress and that might be revised. The entire site design was updated, mainly to upgrade the functionality, but the new design is also a bit more polished, I think.
Are you reading on a computer or mobile? I’m definitely still having issues with the mobile design, so that might be affecting your experience. I do really appreciate the feedback, in any case. Please let me know if you are not seeing the category photos still. Thanks!!
Gorgeous! Maybe the beautiful room awaiting her will bring her home more often?
Ha ha! Thanks, Ellen!! Yep, I hope so. She seems to like to visit plenty and I’m SO ok with that… 🙂
Stunning! Really a restful lovely room!
Thanks so much, Rebecca!!
Lory, You did a wonderful job with this room! I sometimes find grey to be a cold color, but not in this case–everything together has a very cozy feel and I love that the room has a unisex look. As always, you knew just what elements would work best, and I’m crushing on that pop of just the right color lilac and those gorgeous crushed velvet drapes. I know your daughter has to feel very special that mom put in so much effort just for her.
Thanks, Bobbi! Yes, I usually stay away from greys too, but just figured I’d go for it in this room. I hope I remember to do the room reveal of her apartment bedroom. It has a similar feel but much lighter – more beige with lilac touches than grey… 🙂
Very nice. You have managed to make a frou-frou color like lavender and make it hip and chic at the same time. Silver tones were an excellent idea. Very lovely room…perfect for an up-and comer and as a guest room will make guest think it’s a 4-Star hotel. Thanks for sharing, Sandi
Thanks so much, Sandi! Sometimes I think our house is a hotel… lol!! But, of course, I love having guests… 🙂 Thanks for stopping by!!
What a beautiful room. I love the lavender with the grays.
Thanks, Debra!! Thanks for visiting… 🙂
Lory, I adore this color palette! Grey and lavender are my two favorite colors. I think your daughter will continue to enjoy coming home to this sophisticated room! Keep up the good work. I enjoy your blog very much.
Nancy
Thanks so much, Nancy! I appreciate your kind words… 🙂
What a lovely and tranquil room to come home to- I wouldn’t be surprised if she moved back home! love the mix of textures and surfaces in such a subtle palette-Love the mirrored chest and I was going to ask where you found the drapes.
Thanks, Christina! Ha ha, not so sure about the moving back home, but she’s always welcome… 🙂
looks great, not cold but cool and comfy. Love the combination/balance of frills & masculine materials. I am curious what color wall paint?
Thanks so much, Beth! The paint is Benjamin Moore Winter Gates AC-30.
Your daughters bedroom makeover is both feminine and elegant,love the drapes and the chest of drawers.
Love the gray walls in this bedroom. In the article it refers to the color as a “warm gray.” May I have the name of the color and who makes it, please?
Thank you, Darline! Sure. The color is Benjamin Moore Winter Gates AC-30. Thanks for visiting!!